Morning MarcelloI'm no technical genius and there are folk here who have considerably more knowledge, but I thought i might see if I can help.
1. When we were playing with the D3s at selections we got to play in some pretty muddy sections, the idea being we would get stuck and then practice winching. I noticed a couple of times, right at the very end of movement before being stuck they stalled a couple of times.
I put this down to being so stuck even with the low torque of the auto gear box, the only option is to stall, thus preventing damage to the transmission. In an old TDi with a manual box when you reached this point, you knew you could go no further, so just depressed the clutch and got out to dig. To try any further risked burning clutches, or possible destroying diffs, gear boxes, or prop shafts.
Being up a steep hill trying to drive off presented the same challenge, a near 3 tonne vehice on a steep incline was too much for the transmissin so to prevent damage she stalled.
I don't see it as a problem, rather stall than break something. Next time on the descent though, start the engine, select reverse and the hill descent control, you will have a lot safer return trip. Freewheeling back is notoriously dangerous.
2. Your right about the suspension going to extended. I suspect as you reached the crest of the slope the ground came close to the chassis. Its called extended mode, it is fully automatic, and designed to help elevate the vehicle off possible obstacles or prevent grounding. It is possible to extend even higher manually after extended has been activated. The suspension adjustment light does blink, and if you look at the dash it should tell you its in extended. Like you say it shold return to normal by flicking the suspension control either way.
Hope this helps, I had a look at your pics too, she looks great. Did you put the privacy glass in the back? Or was it standard. She looks cool with the blacked out windows, really sets off the orange. I couldn't help thinking how neat it would be to fit a small hydralic arm to the lighting panel, and a switch in the cab, so they pop up automatically, very James Bond!!
Cheers
Rich