If you use the key to lock the door it still arms the alarm without the inside sensors. It is advised that you still use the fob to unlock. If you find this stops the alarming incidents maybe there is a problem with this sensor.When you washed your car did you pressure wash under the bonnet?? I am suprised that you have a problem but of course water could have been forced into many places.
Is it possible that one of the door/bonnet switches have a problem. I would have thought that was the cheapest bits to start looking at. Of course you might allready have done that.